Suzannah Weiss

When I look back on the days when I was active on dating sites, there are so many moments that leave me wondering, “What was I thinking?” I know what I was thinking: I really wanted something to work out, so I was willing to overlook a lot. And even…

“What are you worried about?” This is a question I get often when I talk about my anxiety. The real answer is, “nothing and everything.” Nothing because no particular event caused the anxiety. And everything because the anxiety attaches itself to…

“But the problem is, if you’re not a little pushy, women will be mad at you.” I’ve heard more than one guy say this when I’ve complained about how aggressive some men can be toward women. It’s an unfortunate irony: A lot of guys who date women don’t…

UPDATE: After receiving criticism that Bellesa, a free porn site for women, was actually disempowering women in the industry by being “a piracy curator,” the site apologized and removed the video platform on 9/21. In a statement shared with Bustle…

I once learned in a sexuality workshop to say “sexualities” instead of “sexuality.” It’s something I still try to do, though it’s not always logistically possible. The phrase “female sexuality” always made me cringe. It attempts to associate an…

Thinking often feels like an uphill battle against my brain. Between fuzzy-headedness, indecisiveness, and over-analysis, I try to avoid the amount of time I spend inside my head. But if I could think more clearly, I know my work and my life would…

Three years ago, I went through one of the hardest “breakups” of my life: One of my best friends decided we part ways. I spent the following three years brainstorming ways to get her back — until it occurred to me that maybe, this friend breakup was…

I’ve always been curious about polyamorous relationships but unsure if I could actually pull one off. So, I was excited to learn that Andre Shakti, author of the “I Am Poly & So Can You!” column at IAmPoly.net, was teaching a class on polyamory…

“That was really brave of you to talk about your sex life. Could you tell me what it was like to be that vulnerable?” I was being interviewed on the radio about a recent piece of mine — “4 Reasons I Don’t Consider Orgasm the Goal of Sex” — and the…

There’s a lot of confusion about how your vibrator can affect your orgasms in the long-term. While some swear their vibrators have desensitized them, many sex therapists insist that vibrator use has no effect on orgasmic ability. As usual, the…

You sometimes hear about people being hypnotized into quacking like ducks and doing other wacky things. Then, there are the more useful application for hypnosis, like quitting a bad habit. But what if the change you desire is internal? Can hypnosis…

“So, where do you think you want to settle down?” “It’s great to get that out of your system before you settle down.” Increasingly, people’s comments toward me seem to reflect the assumption that some day, I’ll “settle down.” This is probably only…

As a digital nomad — someone who travels constantly while working remotely — I’ve gotten to live in quite a few cities. I’ve also gotten to see the best cities to live in in a different way than you might if you just went there for vacation. I’ve…

My parents used to say that I was like the princess in The Princess and the Pea. Every little thing that went wrong could ruin my sleep — and my entire day. It can be unbearable living life as a highly-sensitive person (HSP). Everything from the…

It’s hard to convince a workaholic to take a break while they’re working — unless, perhaps, you can convince them it’s good for their work. And if you said that, you’d be right. There are many benefits to taking breaks through the day and throughout…

Rules and expectations for long-distance relationships are not always as clear-cut as those for partners who live near each other. If you’re in one, you might find yourself asking questions like “are we supposed to talk to each other’s families?”,…

Sex toys have a fraught history. Vibrators used to be so stigmatized, they were initially marketed as “massagers,” with even the famous Hitachi Magic Wand refusing to call itself a vibrator. Then, when women began selling sex toys to other women at…

When I heard my peers talking about sex as a teen and preteen, I often found myself thinking, “I hope that’s not true!” They made sex sound like a favor women did for men, and often an unpleasant one. The good news is, most of it did turn out to be…

I’ve always been a fan of sexting. I’m a very verbal person, so talking about doing something in bed can be even more fun for me than actually doing it. But sometimes, I run out of sexts to send. My standard “I want you” and “I’ve been thinking…

Consent is often a topic primarily discussed with people who identify as women, likely due to the mistaken belief that a) only women are sexually assaulted or harassed and b) it’s primarily the potential victims’ responsibility to learn about and…