Nadia Bokody

"Many queer people want to heal by coming together with law enforcement, but the wounds are still fresh and run far too deep for countless others."

Are you attracted to men? Or are you simply attracted to masculinity?

If spending time in the psychiatric unit taught me anything (besides the fact McGyver would be screwed in there, because Swiss Army knives definitely aren’t allowed), it’s that no amount of benzodiazepines, therapy sessions or emotional regulation skills will fix you.Mostly, because you’re not broken. But also because shame isn’t resolved in a hospital bed. And wrapping it up in a cute dress after you’re discharged won’t make it go away either.I haven’t been back to the psych ward in a year, but…

Honing in on the physical responses I had with women also allowed me to realise years of conditioning to view male attention as a signifier of my worth and desirability had led me to mistake wanting men to be attracted to me for being attracted to men myself.5. Get your mind out of the gutter.After I came out, I went on quite a few dates with women who viewed their lack of sexual experience with other women as a kind of deficit they were duty-bound to reveal ahead of meeting me.But here’s the th…

If this happens in your marriage, run.